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Brandon James Malstrom was a friend to
all. Everyone who came in contact with him was touched by his love for
life. He made friends everywhere he went, and he was passionate about
everything he did. He loved lacrosse, skateboarding, music, and hanging
out with his friends.
In November 2002, Brandon was taken from his family and friends at the
age of 20. He was stabbed at a homecoming party near the University of
Maryland, and he left a legacy brighter than his blue eyes.
"Brandon was the light to so many lives
and he gave everyone a reason to smile." -Nicole Heffernan (Baltimore,
MD)
"People did not just love him, they adored him. We all did." -Mandi Baker
(Lewes, DE)
"He
was the best kind of friend. He was easy to talk to and confide in, and was
always quick to lend a helping hand. He always put others first, and would
be the first one to stick up for friend." -Janna White (Phoenix, MD)
"I
remember Brandon as a life-loving young man who made life more enjoyable for
everyone he touched." -Hank Maser (Pittsburgh, PA)
The following is an article from the
Diamondback highlighting the wonderful memories Brandon left behind.
Nov
15, 2002
'HE
HAD SO MUCH LIFE IN HIM'
Student known for smile and love for skateboarding
by
Justin Fenton and Jeremy Hsieh Staff writers
PHOENIX, Md. - The room is wallpapered with skateboarding posters, lacrosse
plaques and mementos of lost loved ones. Someone had spent a long time in
this room making it his, but its tidiness and thin layer of dust make it
clear the room isn't used every day, just like the rooms belonging to every
other kid away at college.
But
the spotless floor, undisturbed bedspread, autographed lacrosse balls and
nutcracker dolls in this room will continue to gather layers of dust through
Thanksgiving, Christmas and the summer for years to come. It will probably
stay untouched for as long as it's a part of the family's home. The
Malstrom's home may be in order, but their world has been turned
upside-down.
Hundreds of friends and family members gathered at a home in rural Phoenix,
MD yesterday to console the immediate family of Brandon Malstrom, the
20-year-old junior who died Sunday morning from a stab wound.
"He
had so much life in him, you know?" said his brother Bill Malstrom IV. "He
died at 20 years old, but he lived a full 20 years, probably more."
Perceptions of Brandon did not vary; everyone who came in contact with him
described him as honest, kind, friendly, supportive and fun-loving.
"You almost could never find Brandon when he wasn't smiling," said his
father, Bill Malstrom III. "He had a very infectious smile; he could light
up a room. It was hard to have anything but positive and upbeat
conversations."
About 75 of his peers, traveling from as far as Connecticut and Utah,
gathered yesterday to share memories. They included classmates, roommates,
teammates, best friends and a girlfriend of almost six years.
At
one point during the reception, a small boy walked over to Brandon's
brother, tugged on his shirt, looked up and offered these comforts: "Brandon
never would've guessed how many people cared."
Bill, 23, paused. Visibly moved, he responded, "Yeah ... he'd be flattered."
The
last time Gina Cox, a junior letters and sciences major and Brandon's
girlfriend, spoke to Brandon was Saturday night. She was home for a family
event, and he called her from a homecoming tailgate party.The last thing he
said to her was, "I love you - talk to you later."
Cox
was sure she would speak to him later. They had been dating since their
freshman year at Dulaney High School in Timonium, Md., and their
relationship had survived both adolescence and distance. She spent her
freshman year at Villa Julie College, while he was at the University of
Maryland, Baltimore County. They both transferred to this university before
their sophomore year.
"They probably would always be together," said his mother, Carol Malstrom.
Their relationship had reached a special level that only time can create. No
obstacle was too great, no distance too far, according to friends of the
couple.
The ring he gave her for their
four-year anniversary, as well as the cards and letters he wrote to her, are
among possessions she will forever cherish.
"He
was a wonderful boyfriend," Cox said, overwhelmed with memories. "He
definitely didn't deserve what happened."
His
main reason for attending UMBC was the pursuit of a budding skateboarding
career, buoyed by a sponsorship deal with the Spicey Inline Skate and
Snowboarding Shop. Never mind his accolades as a high school lacrosse
player; skateboarding was his passion. After making the varsity team at
Dulaney as a freshman midfielder, the only first-year player to do so that
year, he hung up his stick and pads his senior year in favor of ollies,
nose-grinds and kick-flips.
"He
was an outstanding midfielder; really good on ground balls, a really good
athlete," said Dulaney coach Gary Schreiber, who noted Brandon's team-first
attitude and caring nature. His teammates mobbed him after scoring his first
goal as a freshman; he was the team's "little brother."
"[Pursuing skateboarding] was a big decision for him," Schreiber said. "We
really missed him." His mother said skateboarding was a new horizon for him.
"He was always looking for new horizons," she said.
His
brother Bill recalls fond memories of skating with Brandon, pointing to a
crumpled aluminum "No Skateboarding" sign on Brandon's wall with a smile on
his face. On family trips to the Bahamas and Spain, they would spend up to
five hours a day skating with the locals.
A
torn ligament in his ankle and the subsequent recovery time waned Brandon's
interest in the sport. That, coupled with his dissatisfaction with UMBC's
social atmosphere, led him to College Park, where he took an active interest
in the basketball and football teams.
Music was one of Brandon's other loves, sometimes leading him to hit the
road and drive across state borders to catch his favorite shows.
While the performance of the Beatles' "In My Life" at the funeral was
poignant, Brandon's musical preference was underground hip-hop; he favored
Big L, Notorious B.I.G. and personal friend and emerging MC Jay Sharp, whom
Brandon drove to his first performance. Traveling deep into inner cities for
shows, "he would be the only white guy there," his brother said.
His
studies, meanwhile, did not go neglected; Brandon's grades earned him spots
on the dean's list both of his semesters at the university.
"He
was the kind of person that seemed to embody every good quality that you
would hope for in a child and expect of a friend," his father said. "He
absolutely without fail never ever did anything less than what exceeded
every expectation I had for him."
Now, Bill Malstrom is thinking of ways to keep his brother's spirit alive.
"I'll never forget him," said his brother, who plans on making a video
montage of Brandon's skateboarding clips as a tribute to his memory. "I'm
naming my first child Brandon."
There is no manual for grieving a loss. For the Malstroms, they will deal
with the grief slowly.
"They say it will [return to normal] eventually," Carol said. "But I just
can't imagine it ever."
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